I tried to be patient and kind with my kids and it went well. I made it through the day without yelling!
After the kids went to bed Drek and I talked a lot, so I feel like we have some plans to make the future better.
First, I need more sleep. I'm moving out of the bedroom for the next week. Drek is going to take Tabs and train her to sleep in a pack and play. Hopefully it will only take a week. Hopefully it will stick.
Second, I really do need more me time. This last week I've been great on giving the kids individual attention and making them feel loved, but I really don't focus on giving myself alone time. We're making plans to change that.
Today was better. I'm very, very tired today (Tabs was just awful last night, I suppose she knows it's her last night of freedom) but I'm not depressed, just tired. I did yell once, it was a warning "No!" which seems to be a weakness of mine. I'll have to think about how to control my volume when issuing warnings. This article has some really helpful parenting strategies, including getting physically close to your children and talking softly so they have to really listen to hear you.
I've realized a pattern: I eat sugar, and in two days I'm depressed. I'm not sure if this is (A) a coincidence (B) an emotional reaction my breaking my goals or (C) a physical reaction to sugar. In the case of the latter two, It's just more motivation to avoid sugar.