tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post4643739861492435509..comments2023-06-23T05:07:48.082-07:00Comments on Bananablog: What a Plan. Simple, Yet InsaneK Lahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08783061197232750439noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post-22191402182429217612011-03-22T11:05:13.206-07:002011-03-22T11:05:13.206-07:00It's funny, right? Wouldn't it be great if...It's funny, right? Wouldn't it be great if humans came with a manual?<br /><br />Well, no, I don't think so because this is far more fun.<br /><br />My main suggestion (besides agreeing with what is already here) would be to use those solutions to look at the problem a new way. FORGET the reasoning behind them, that's psychology right there and 90% of the time people make that stuff up (just like statistics).<br /><br />My mom had the hardest time getting my big brother to drink milk as an infant. She tried everything and anything and one day forgot to heat up the milk and he sucked it down. Turns out it didn't matter if it was breast milk or goat milk or soy milk, he just liked cold foods! I was the same; didn't matter if it was pudding or sauces or whatever, I <i>didn't</i> like cold foods and would gobble down anything hot.<br /><br />If you use those "solutions" as a sounding board to look at the problem from a new angle, great. But Ash is your baby and you know her better than any other human on this planet. Raise her the best you know how and don't worry about it. She'll forgive you someday.<br /><br />PS Those solutions about giving babies independence are interesting to me. Not to spark a big debate, but babies doesn't really need that much choice just yet...you can make it available, but sometimes it's nice for kids to know that there are some things that they just have to do.Balgramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11727042957253957244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post-83893068765847407602011-03-20T14:01:07.524-07:002011-03-20T14:01:07.524-07:00Consider the source of the knowledge. And relax! ...Consider the source of the knowledge. And relax! You're a good mom and you will find your way through.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629132084441191734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post-27574562827216386412011-03-20T12:42:07.750-07:002011-03-20T12:42:07.750-07:00Actually, the carrots were just an example. Ash ea...Actually, the carrots were just an example. Ash eats her carrots just fine. It's EVERYTHING ELSE that we're having problems with. EVERYTHING in her life is a question with too many solutions. Still, I agree you guys. The answer is prayer and maybe stop reading reading so many freaking books and forums. But how can knowledge be bad? I just don't get it.K Lahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08783061197232750439noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post-56014212256543479112011-03-20T11:33:24.160-07:002011-03-20T11:33:24.160-07:00Hence the reason I stopped going to Mothering.com ...Hence the reason I stopped going to Mothering.com and soliciting advice from other parents. I still forget this rule from time to time. Toby is different from their children - they have no idea what will work for him, so it's just going to cause more problems if I start farming out for solutions. <br /><br />Personally I think it's because it's a Sunland carrot. If it was a Utah carrot, she would gobble so many of them she'd turn orange. So you should move back here, and then you will have a happy, carrot loving orange baby.<br /><br />Hey, maybe this is the reason my Arkansan child is such a pain in the butt. <br /><br />Well, sucks to be him.Krislinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07323048843568458474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post-21982237829287495102011-03-20T09:18:18.567-07:002011-03-20T09:18:18.567-07:00I don't know if you want it but here is my adv...I don't know if you want it but here is my advice anyway.<br />1. If it's a big concern, pray about it. Pick what you think is your best solution and ask if it's right. Heavenly Father knows our kids better than we ever will. I've gotten great parenting advice through inspiration.<br />2. If it's a little concern, don't sweat it. It's harder than people think to damage kids beyond repair. <br />For Ellie, we use a family tradition from Dave's family, the "No Thank You helping." It means that the child has a small (one or two bites) serving of whatever they dislike when it's on the menu. That gets them to try new or disliked things without being overwhelming. I know toddlers often go through phases with eating so I wouldn't force the issue, just offer occasionally and maybe someday she'll discover she likes them. Good luck!Charity Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02837739965211871466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post-59716867333141352772011-03-20T04:56:58.777-07:002011-03-20T04:56:58.777-07:00Incidentally, don't forget the source of the v...Incidentally, don't forget the source of the very best information about parenting. He will guide you. He also sets the perfect example about agency, health choices, etc.Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629132084441191734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-23330523.post-55738747639824405162011-03-20T04:56:02.838-07:002011-03-20T04:56:02.838-07:00I am a believer in not making toddlers eat raw car...I am a believer in not making toddlers eat raw carrots and I like solution 3. By the time a child is 4 or 5, we say, "Try one bite. Then if you don't like it we won't make you eat any more." Mr. T. has eaten whole servings of many new foods that way, and occasionally stuck his nose up at others after one bite. It helps if they see the parents trying one bite first! We also taught that "No thank you, I don't want any more" is much better than saying "Yuck, I hate it!" <br /><br />I don't like raw carrots either but have you tried baby carrots for her? They're a little more tender, a little sweeter, and they're "cute little baby carrots."Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03629132084441191734noreply@blogger.com